If your spouse - Othello ...

"In jealousy there is nothing wrong." "He's jealous, - means love." "Compel jealous, to awaken feelings. That's right - until jealousy does not become a disease and yet not suffer from her children.


Living with a man, dig into your notebook, requiring call every two hours from work, to account for every passing day - seriously. But remember that your husband is suffering much more. All of his life - continuous stress. He is usually aware that the sick, trying to pull myself together, but seeing as colleague kisses you on the cheek at the meeting, loses control of himself.

Even if your "Othello" the perfect father, in a fit of jealousy when he forgets about the children and not think about their feelings. The consequences of this loss of self control, tend to be very sad for the kids. Parents determine the relationships always lead to children's stress, which can manifest itself in the form of enuresis, or many other diseases, or a nervous breakdown, but - importantly - in the future, these children are laid in childhood reproduce a pattern already in their own family.

How to help jealous? But at the same time, and yourself?
First of all we must realize that this disease and fight it must be very, very carefully, not allowing her to progress. Do not laugh at her husband. Abandoning the casually: "We have a new colleague at work, Ve-ry nice" - do not get anything but a sleepless night for him (as well as for himself) and his regular forays to see you at work. It is much easier to just tell: "I have a new colleague" and stop all the questions, saying: "better than you anyway. I no one else is interested. And it is desirable that this was the end of your conversation.

Do not indulge tantrums like "I saw that you looked at the type!". But do not forget that these words may lie just self-doubt and a desire to hear: "Why, he is absolutely ugly, no nothing from itself does not represent, as compared to you he just morel (or, conversely, block fat )!

For unbridled jealousy may be hiding and a sense of ownership. Thus, Oleg jealous wife (incidentally, can not conceive of treason) to anyone passing by a man who would not let her travel. When they divorced, and his wife immediately began to meet with others, he does not even angry. "But we have still not together!"

In addition to the jealousy from self-doubt and feelings of the owner, is jealousy age, that is youth. "When my husband was on 19, and he said that he liked Michelle Pfeiffer - recalls Light - I almost smashed the TV and half a day with my husband did not speak. We are happy to discuss together with long legs held by girls and actresses, expressive eyes. "

And, finally, is that jealousy becomes a mania, phobia. This advice can be only one: to urgently convince the wife to go to a psychologist. It is not easy, but otherwise - not. Here on its own can not cope.

By the way, consider: whether "injured party" you or she is very jealous - protection for children from your "showdown". You've already realized what harm they cause aborted child's psyche, is not it? And it is quite impossible to allow the child to become a "language", reported that "my mother called my uncle," and "Dad, when we were walking with him, met with sympathetic aunt."
Of course, anyone jealous very difficult to give up surveillance and other manifestations of their confidence. Try all the same to the public to tell her husband that it is unpleasant to you, and ask him to save thee from these actions and scenes of jealousy. Try to influence it strongly, and most patiently. Help him, if not get rid of the "complex Othello", at least to soften, smooth it. And the reward for their efforts will be grateful for a surge of feelings, peace and joy in the family.

And the last. Before blaming the spouse in excess of jealousy, will follow is: perhaps you really do not miss a chance to communicate with each more or less likable young man? Or maybe you spend all night with the head of your thesis, and the remaining time devoted to discussing the merits? Then do not be surprised if your wife suddenly woke Othello! ..